The Honor System
Monday, February 8, 2010 10:33 Written By The Undresser
“You don’t try to f**k my wife, and I won’t try to f**k yours.” “Cool”
The power of the P-U-S-S-Y. From wars to grade school fist-fights, a dude is willing to go blow for blow for a woman that he thinks is his own. Even if she isn’t committed to him by any verbal agreement, let alone marriage, some men feel like she’s his…FOREVER. Knowing this, men often make an agreement with our friends, boys, homies, or whatever we call those dudes we hang around, regarding which one of our lady friends our boys can and CAN NOT get at. But sometimes, for whatever reason, no matter how many women there are in the world, your boy wants the girl you want or have, and he’ll sacrifice whatever to try to make it happen.
Personally, I don’t cuff chicks. As long as one of my boys doesn’t try to have sex with my main, there won’t be any problems. There have been a few girls I liked, like Therapist, that one of my boys wanted because she has the ability to squirt, but I told him dead that and he fell back. I don’t want any woman that any of my boys has already hit. In my mind, once you give Hate2Love your box, you are his forever. I don’t run trains, or do those gay threesomes, where there are two dudes and one girl, but the dudes are supposedly not touching eachother.
Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you want to look at it, everyone doesn’t think like me. I have another boy, well had, who has had sex with more women than Hate2Love and I put together and multiplied by two (aka, THAT’S A LOT OF WOMEN). He was running through everything with a vagina since 1999 and has right around 5 kids that I know of, s**t, that he knows of, all by different women. That’s not the issue though. His game is one of “I Love You” version. He’s one of those dudes that tells every girl he meets that he loves them, fairly quickly. Some women fall for it, others laugh.
Well, one day when he was making his rounds, he had this one chick on the phone with him. We were pulling up to another chicks house, but instead of him telling the girl he’d call her back, he gave me the phone and told me to talk to her while he went to talk to this other girl real quick. That was his first mistake. I wasn’t trying to get at ol’ girl, I’d never seen her. She was just telling me how funny she thought it was that he was acting like he was so into her so fast. They’d never kissed, fucked, anything like that. I just listened, as I’m not one to throw salt into someones game. We’re on the phone, she’s asking me where I lived and all that. About 5 minutes into the convo, she gives me her number.
My boy gets back in the car and I tell him what happened. He shrugs it off like it’s nothing and we proceed with the female visits on the agenda. I get a call from ol’ girl later that night and she’s asking me why I told him about me getting her number. Apparently, my boy called her and chewed her out about it, saying that’s not cool and how he wants her to himself, blah, blah, blah. None of which he told me in the car. Some real chidish s**t if you ask me.
I know I said I don’t want anyone’s leftovers, but remember, he never got her. They were still in the first few days of knowing eachother and his game wasn’t working. I’m all for reserving a chick or two, or maybe even three; but come on now, you can’t say that all 80 of the girls you’re attempting to f**k are off limits. You can’t walk through the mall with every girl handcuffin’, feeding her lines about long lasting relationships, or atleast you shouldn’t.
Since he was being a b***h though, I left her alone, which lead to her telling him to leave her alone. Eventually I hooked up with ol’ girl and he’s been bitter ever since. Bitter niggas make bad friends.
Which is how we came to this problem. It’s now a significant amount of time after this girl and I hooked up. I had a new main chick, that all of my boys (I associate with a very small group of males) knew about. The honor system says, “No trying to push up on anyone’s main girl, girlfriend, boo, honey dip, or otherwise significant other.” Well this fool forgot the rules, jumping out of pocket.
I get a call from my main girl, who is out with her girl, at the movies. “Get your boy,” she said. “What?” “He’s acting real stupid,” she replied. She game him the phone and I asked him what was going on. “Nothing. Me and ****** were up here at Fairlane and we saw your girl and her friend so we started talking to them.” “Give ******* back the phone.” By now, I knew something was wrong. My main never called me over stupid s**t like this.
“They went into the movies with us and sat behind us. Then he whispered in my ear, ‘Can I get some head?’
RED LIGHT.
Did this nigga just ask my girl for some head?
“Say that again baby.” I responded. “He was like, you wouldn’t care and all that type of stuff. I didn’t even say anything, I just called you.” she explained. “Good girl,” I told her jokingly, but I was definitely upset. I told her to tell him I’d see him back on the block.
I’m not fighting over a chick. But this wasn’t over a chick. This was clearly over blatant disrespect of me. This nigga didn’t even try to game my chick, he just asked her for some head. I called me other boy and he straight said “blow his sh*t out.” I took some time to try to rationalize the situation, but it wasn’t working, so I called my uncle and he said (I’m paraphrasing here) “fight him for what? over a girl who’s not your girl? You’re not committed to her. Beating his ass won’t solve s**t. The nigga is clearly not your friend, so just cut the dude off and keep it moving.” Eh, my uncle never did know what he was talking about.
When my boy got back on the block, I indeed blew his s**t out. He didn’t fall or anything, he just took a nice lil’ right hook to the jaw. He shouted, I shouted, no more punches were thrown. “Over a b*tch, over a b*tch. When you fucked my b*tch,” he screamed. I knew it, this nigga never emotionally healed from that chick a while back. I took the latter part of my uncles advice and cut ol’ dude off. He was so p*ssy crazy that he had to hit em’ all, or try to, and that’s not good for business. Plus he had a lot of drama with other niggas trying to knock his head off from messing with their girls.
Was I wrong from messing with the girl he claimed he liked? Cutting our friendship off? You know they say bro’s before ho’s. What kind of system do you have with your friends regarding people that you are, or want to be, romantically or sexually involved with?
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The 1 & Only Force says:
February 8th, 2010 at 12:16 pm
Nah I dont think you wrong for any of it I mean she wanted you there’s nothing he can do really just get over it. But he on that high school drama tip. Like for reals that is an absolute HELL NO to push up on anybody significant other when you know that a boundary that should never be crossed. You were right for hitting him he needed it…I better he won’t do that ish no more…lmao
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QueenT says:
February 8th, 2010 at 12:45 pm
It sounds young-minded to me, the whole thing. I don’t think you needed to resort to violence on this one at all..you just needed to cut dude loose. Personally, I would have handled the situation without bringing you in on it. Unless, it was coming to a crisis situation….i am just independent like that……I don’t feel the need to consult my SO on every dude gettin slick out the mouth…..I know how to handle those situations myself……That dude really sounded young minded…you don’t need friends/boys like that around you….
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screagle says:
February 8th, 2010 at 2:35 pm
it’s always wrong to fight over a female that’s not related to you. the only females i’ll fight for are family. but what you did do wrong is not turning his lights out on the first shot. dude is a ham and you gotta shake him loose
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futurnflmom says:
February 8th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
No you were not wrong going @ that chic, dude & ole girl weren’t even in the new car smell. but you was wrong when you hit dude & went all loud mouth on a corner.You should have listened to your uncle when he said don’t stress it & let it go..You already knew dude was salty about the situation, no need to stoop to his level, especially since “your girl” didn’t give him no play & called you…& as far as a code my friends & i live by, i don’t go behind anything that my friends have had….that’s dead for me
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
I can always count on you, lol.
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Blue Skies says:
February 8th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
Umm sorry I just have to take ur uncle’s side. Why are u really fighting him for? You just made him seem more important than he really is. I know he was just trying to get that type of reaction outta you. You gave him what he wanted. Next time listen to your elders they usually know what that are talking about through sheer experience.
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HateToLove says:
February 8th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
Get over it. Yall niggas seriously arguing about some p***y. You both where in the wrong. It doesn’t matter if he didn’t get at her, once your boy claims a girl then you should back off. You where in the wrong first. Two wrongs don’t make a right though, but you definitely got this ball rolling. Once she started pushing up on you that should have been a red light for you. Any b***h who has no problem with talking to one friend just to hook up with his boy is a slut. A blatant slut.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
HE DID NOT CLAIM HER. Did you not see the part where I said he just laughed it off and said it was cool? You can’t tell me you don’t care, then go back to the b***h and start crying.
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Covet says:
February 8th, 2010 at 4:48 pm
The whole thing is immature to me. You shouldn’t be hitting people regarding some girl. Your uncle had it right. let it go. But I know guys egos get bruised and it needs to be defended lol. And she runnin to you like she can’t handle it her self…it woulld different if he was consistently messin with her. But she should of ended that issue from the get go. and hanging around people who have that much drama in their life are not people you need to be chummy with. He sounds like a lame and i’m suprised he’s not fucking dead yet if he’s had more sex than you and Hate 2Love x 2!
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magnificentchris313 says:
February 8th, 2010 at 5:30 pm
yo my dude like hate2love said u were wrong for fucking his b***h first. but im thinking like it doesnt matter if u did that or not. he would have still seen ya chick and tried to get on. all that fighting s**t is for kids though…it would have been extra funny if he ended up beating your ass. thats probably what happened. can i get a witness statement.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:33 pm
I’d have no problem saying I lost a fight, but it really wasn’t a fight. I hit him, then that was it. Matter of fact, you know Ty, just ask him.
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bestuHeverhad says:
February 8th, 2010 at 5:33 pm
I would never deal with any man that any of my girls was interested in. I think you were wrong for resulting to violence like the other ladies said.
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NightOwl Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 7:42 pm
D@MN! GET OFF OF HIS NUTZ! He wasn’t all that and had no game according to you, yet you are always hanging from his nut-sack like week-old lint. Do us all a favor, jump off of his nutz, crawl from up under beneath his thigh, or stay on his nutz and just admit you want the d*ck and stop lying to yourself.
UH, this chick obviously needs some closure, just give this chick the d*ck already, maybe she will go away…
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:32 pm
lol. Is she really getting to yall like that? I just ignore her post….most of the time, but she didn’t say anything too crazy this time.
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smooch says:
February 8th, 2010 at 5:51 pm
i never mess with friends exes or whatever b/c women always seem to care nomatter what they claim. so i personally dont think you shouldve hollered at his chick. ol dude shouldve been up front and said “I dont want you talking to her”(or something to that effect) the moment you told him. so him complaining to chick and then seeking revenge on you, with your main, was childish and uncalled for. but overrall, i understand the disrespect part. still it shouldnt had resulted in violence. you couldve told him “dont do it again”(lol) & cut him off before you blasted off. that was wrong on your part.
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Mr. Ready Set says:
February 8th, 2010 at 6:08 pm
I would never mess with a chick that a friend has hit. There’s too many ladies out there! but depending on how close we are, If a homie has tried and failed, I will at least let him know my intentions like “hey, I’m about to try to get at ***. Y’all are through right?” just as sign of respect. But if we are not close but more like associates or friends-of-friends, all bets are off. Funny, though, I think ladies are more foul at this than guys are! Their girl friends will tell them how their man put it down and then they will try to get at the dude behind their girl’s back! Shady!
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SUgarWalls says:
February 8th, 2010 at 7:50 pm
The whole thing sound silly and young. Maybe you both should try keeping it in your pants and none of this would have occured in the 1rst place. Oh and Violence never helps any situation.
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ms.coco says:
February 8th, 2010 at 7:52 pm
I agree with h2l. My friends and I have an unwritten rule to not mess around, talk to or “hump” an individual that we’ve once had. But it was wrong for you to get at someone he was trying to get at but it was also wrong for your homeboy to say that to your main but karma is a BIG B! Remember that because you could save yourself the trouble and drama when it comes to your boys. But love the blog.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:31 pm
he was trying to get at 1,000 girls….it wasn’t like she was special or something. She chose me, it’s not like I tried to take the chick.
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TrueMan says:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:10 pm
That’s crazy. If he knew she was your main, then the was out of bounds. But if you were getting something on the side too, you can’t complain much.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 8:30 pm
she was my main girl, but we were not committed or anything like that. She was just the one I dealt with the most.
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Stunt Millions says:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:57 pm
Damnnn…dude was tryna get at Bathtub?
Came out of left field..his attitude..isn’t one that seems to be associated with a person you would mess with..he catching feelings quickly over a chick that didn’t even want him, and people need to stop being hard if it bothered you, then it bothers you just say it. As for you aww fighting over Bubbles how cute, alright pushing it but you gotta admit you got upset over this more quickly then you would any other chick..and fight where they do that at? Should’ve pulled out the Sig Sauer all beef dissipates then.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 9th, 2010 at 8:57 am
you name dropping the WRONG names kid. It wasn’t even beef, lol.
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Ash B. says:
February 9th, 2010 at 12:48 am
no i dont think you were wrong for talking to the girl..besides she technically got at you first lmao. i did find it immature for approaching him, you should have just dropped it, especially after you found out he was salty. we dont share leftovers in my crew, let alone newbies lol
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Me says:
February 9th, 2010 at 1:39 am
When I was single and my home girl and I were younger we used to have a saying…”We don’t let d*ck come between us, we let it cum between our legs!” LMAO
As far as men the we had a true interest in…it was established that he was not “one of those” and we never had any problems.
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Covet Reply:
February 9th, 2010 at 2:55 pm
lmao that is cute!
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AGK says:
February 9th, 2010 at 3:14 pm
Ii think u should take uncle’s advise more often.
He sounds like he knows what’s what.
I think u should’ve completely ignored dude, since he sounds like an immature whore
That’s all. Lol
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tohrukyo says:
February 9th, 2010 at 3:56 pm
HA, yeah that’s how stupid niggas are, just another product of our f***ed up society. I don’t think violence was the best answer though, as there are niggas out here that will blow you away over nothing, esp since you’ve seen he’s harbored a grudge against you for “taking his girl”.
Well, you certainly have a good woman, because I know a guy that gets women who have bfs all on his ****, which, for an attached woman to do that is a darn shame.
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Therapist says:
February 9th, 2010 at 4:44 pm
I hate violence, fighting, etc but if a dude disrespected me like that, I would want my dude to rock his jaw too.
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Poitree Reply:
February 10th, 2010 at 5:08 pm
Agreed…………………….
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TONYA says:
February 9th, 2010 at 11:04 pm
PURE DEE BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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WILLIAM H. says:
February 11th, 2010 at 12:14 am
SMHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! I CANT f**k WIT TOO MANY NIGGAS FAM. I ALWAYS HERE s**t LIKE THAT, NIGGAS THROW DARTS AT YA SIDE CHICKS AND THEY TELL ME. IM GOING THROUGH THAT RIGHT NOW, ONE OF MY MAIN NIGGAS BEEN SNEAK DISSING TO A b***h I USE TO f**k WIT CAUSE HIS BABYMOMS IS CLOSE FRIENDS WIT HER. HE THINK I DUNNO, I THINK IT MAY END UP LIKE THE CONCLUSION IN THIS STORY
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Miracleon34th says:
February 25th, 2010 at 8:26 pm
That whole situation was bad. Because most people appreciate honesty that is exactly what I will give you. You both were wrong. You should not have messed with his “friend” no matter the situation especially when he got “stupid” over her from the jump. He shouldnt have messed with your main but that was clearly a revenge move. I feel like there’s so many fish in the sea keep your willy to your own flock. I would never talk to a dude that I knew my friend was the least bit interested in. For what? So it can cause some friction between my girl….nah, next please.
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