From Her Perspective: Therapist
Tuesday, February 2, 2010 9:08 Written By The UndresseruH Note: Therapist and I haven’t had sex in so long, I forgot how it feels to mess with a woman who has the ability to squirt. Thankfully, my new Chicago associate is well gifted (you know who you are). She’s a pretty good writer and I knew she’d tell the truth, so I offered her the chance to write about her experiences with me. After making me wait months for her point of view, she finally sent it to me. Well, here we go:
I met [theUNDRESSER] back in the Summer of 2007. Light-skin dudes do very little for me but I liked the game he had about himself. We talked for awhile about everything from kids to college, and I told him that I was a Psychology major and that’s how I got the name Therapist.
One day he invited me over, I was nervous but I agreed if he would come get me. He picked me up and I immediately noticed that he was a “car” dude, tint, sounds, the works. I also really liked the way he was dressed. Cute. Simple. Urban. We went to his apartment and I was very impressed. It was clean and I could tell from his gadgets that he was tech savvy.
We sat on the couch to “watch a movie”. Eventually, his hands began to roam as he tried to lay me across his lap. I quickly sat up as he pulled my tube top down and began to suck on my breasts. Feeling his mouth on me was amazing. I was so turned on that I began to soak through my panties. I got up and walked to the door asking to be taken home. Dang, should have driven myself! He agreed, grabbed his keys and his chain and met me at the door. I thought I was in the clear. Wrong.
He grabbed me by my waist and pushed me against the wall with my arms raised above my head, which took my arousal to another level. He stared me in my eyes and then leaned in for the most passionate, made-for-T.V. kiss I have ever had in my life. My mind was telling me no, but my body, was telling me Yes! He climbed on top of me after strapping up. He felt so big inside of me, like there wasn’t enough room for him. I began to back up to the headboard and he did not let up. I wanted to run but I had nowhere to go. He rolled me over on top of him and after a few minutes, I squirted all over him.
After he came, he jumped up and asked me what had just happened. I laughed as I explained it. He said that he felt violated and jumped in the shower. I cleaned up and got dressed, feeling very uncomfortable at his reaction. He got out of the shower, snatched all my clothes off and told me he wanted more. A few days later, he asked me over again.
When I got there, I called and he said, “Girl, you got some f@#%ed up timing!” He came outside and told me that I took so long he called someone else. He said that she would be down with a threesome and that I could come in anyway. I declined and said I would go. I remember him saying “No, I want you.” I told him I would be back. He asked me if I was serious . I said yes. I never called him again after that.
Fast Forward to 2009
Single again. New lifestyle. One day, I get an instant message from a very familiar face. Wow. I never expected to see him again even though I never forgot about him and talked about him often to my friends. “Hey, how have you been doing?” I wondered if he remembered me or was just being polite. He mentioned how beautiful my smile was and how much he liked my page. He then told me that he would not pursue a woman like me because of my spiritual beliefs. I agreed. But again, we decided to exchange numbers.
We talked for awhile and I realized that he had no idea who I was. He wanted to meet but I was nervous that he would recognize me. I enjoyed the fact that he was clueless and wanted to see how long it would last. We met at mall parking lot and the first thing he said was, “You look so familiar” I laughed to myself. “I do?” We talked, he got touchy, I left. He asked to see me again and I told him he could meet me neutral like a restaurant but he had to pick me up. I knew for sure that he would remember the neighborhood. Nope. We went back to my place and talked about everything. We held hands and laughed and talked for hours. Eventually, our chemistry became apparent.
He laid me on my landing and began to take my panties down. I am a very hard woman to please orally and I was VERY pleased to say the least. I reminded him that we didn’t have any condoms so he let up. I went upstairs to clean up and when I came back downstairs, he was coming back in the house. “Where did you go?” “Oh I was just checking on my car” LIAR! He began to kiss me again, responding to my obvious arousal. I climbed on top of him, finally giving in to him and my heightened arousal caused me to squirt very quickly. As the warm liquid flowed down his side, he looked up at me with a strange look of recognition. He began to ask me questions attempting to confirm his thoughts. He never stopped stroking me. He stroked more and more as he figured out who I was and I loved it.
He took me back to my car as he soothed his main and told her he would be home soon. Reality set in and I felt stupid for wanting him. I got out the car with nothing more than a dry goodbye and cried for about an hour. I wanted to ignore his call the next day but I couldn’t. He had become my own personal brand of heroine.
We developed a great relationship. Some days we would go out, others were spent eating McDonald’s and laughing at College Hill. He would come over around 8 a.m. and stay until 5p.m. or later. We would talk about intelligent topics and then have mind-blowing sex. I knew what I was doing was wrong and I had to leave the Undresser alone for good. I wanted him for myself, I wanted him to leave his main. I knew that I could never have him the way that I wanted and that he wasn’t ready to be the kind of man that I deserved. We sometimes talked about what a relationship would be like together. Aside from his obvious flaws, he is a great guy and I find myself missing him often.
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butterpecanrican says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:45 am
Wow… This definately touched me as if I were directly in your shoes Therapist. I know exactly how this situation feels,I’ve been in it plenty times and I promised myself never to be in it again.You made the right decision.Kudos to you. Lord knows how long you wouldve been waitin for him to come along.
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ShakinMyHead says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:49 am
No woman should deal with that the women are crazy for dealing with it. And i still dont understand why it seems he seems more interesting in these other women more than his main. why?. For some reason i feel that hes not feeling her she must give him money or something i dont know. When you meet a guy like this the thing to do is run cause he will never give u what you want and the emotions will jack you up. Get ova him if he dont care bout the main he dont care bout u he just want SEX in the end.
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futurnflmom Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:48 am
why should someone run if that’s what they want?….If the brother is telling the females in the beginning that all he can offer is sex, it is then up to the women wheather or not to give it up…If they think they can change him then they are the fools…Just accept what he has to offer(SEX), enjoy it and keep it movin…
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poitree says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:50 am
Damn uH. I really REALLY hate you right now. And therapist I know exactly what you’re feeling. The things we do to ourselves.look at it this way would you rather…nevermind. I don’t want to get in trouble for being an unloyal friend.*sigh* but I’ll be doggone I know how you feel. This post makes me so glad I am so far away. Because this could be me. And don’t judge folks. I’m honest about my stupidity. Lol. Outside of the sex stuff…uH is a great guy. And sometimes we lose ourselves waiting for the commitmentphobe to change their minds… Dang therapist. This is some isht.
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poitree says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:56 am
Lest I be accused of unloyalty to our friendship and get abandoned like the other bff (I heart you uH lol) I’m gonna just say that I know how you feel therapist. Been there done it. And every time I talk to uH or have a doggone dream about him I am super thankful that I live so far away.shoot. This could be me.
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LovinDaReadz Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:08 pm
Dang Poitree so are you sayin’ you want him? HaHa!! Gotta be careful who you allow yourself to be around or talk to and i’m glad you’re so far away also. Not sayin’ I think you two should be apart but you shouldn’t have your heart broken and it’s obvious he cares about you (And could probably get in them jeans *No callin you out or anything*) but… He’s is a man with a crazy sex drive and he goes for what he wants until he’s over it and it looks as if he’ll be over it… No time soon. Please don’t take offense to my response. Just thought your response was interesting.
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Poitree Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:07 pm
nah. I’m not offended. It would take a lot in this situation to offend me. LOL. It is what it is. I’m honest with myself and I don’t bite my tongue when I speak words to the other ladies. I wouldn’t dare try to appear “better than thou” when I know that, if given the opportunity, this could very well be me! Understand, that when one gets to know uH, you’re not dealing with theUndresser 100% of the time. You’re dealing with ______. And he’s good people. Good people with a high sex drive and a thirst for new pu$$y. Lots more to say but reaching my character limit. uH…where is my forum?
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QueenT says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:18 am
Oh, Therapist…we all have met our own version of Uh. The key is to enjoy him in the moment and keep it moving…he does seem like a really nice guy. He is just not ready to settle down with anyone..and when he does it will be with his MAIN….yeah, keep him at distance, that is the best way to handle the Undresser…..
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futurnflmom says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:45 am
I thouroughly enjoyed this post…At some time in our lives we’ve all had a thrillpill that we’ve become addictive to…. I believe you become more addicted to the fact of trying to obtain the un-obtainable.. The whole purpose of a thrillpill is to enjoy it while it last and then move on, because chasing the dragon can cause you a great deal of anguish…
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hissweetestdream Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 2:22 pm
I think you worded it perfectly!
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Therapist says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:45 am
Aww…thanks everyone. I am working towards bff status. I really like uH but I can’t be involved with him like that. So we still talk and share the occasional basket of chicken wings. He’s a good dude and I like having him around.
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ShakinMyHead Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:13 am
The more you stick around and try to be a bff the more u put yourself in a messed situation i dont believe you could handle being a friend eventually he will attack and i dont think you would resist u will try but it wont last its better to keep your distance and i think you know that this is just a way to keep him around just in case. Tempation is the devil.
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LovinDaReadz Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Sweetie… I’m going to keep it 100 with you. There’s no way for you two to be on that BFF status and deep down you know it too. I’m sure you’re waiting for his main to f*ck up and him leave her alone. I know that sounds cruel but I know you’re not the only one. And you’re a psychology major… Come on now. It sounds nice but you know staying around will only be difficult because the more he’s your friend the more he’s that nice guy you can’t have the more you want him.
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Poitree Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:10 pm
Therapist, hunnie, you know and I know, your desire for BFF status is a pipe dream. If he’s around, and his d**k gets hard…its a wrap. You’re all or nothing. And he aint there…might not ever get there. And when he does, it may not be with you. Cut your losses. As long as you are holding out for him, you’re never gonna be able to completely move on with someone else. You’ll be like The Mrs….engaged and still holding on to what could have been…if only he would “ack right”. Don’t do it to yourself. Remember the good times and make some new memories with someone else.
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HateToLove says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:29 am
Damn Uh I want to report you to Dr. Phil you heart breaker! LOL. Nah but this was in a way sad. The way she wrote it made me feel for her. Lol @ asking her to be in a three some. THIS NIGGA! A from her perspective for me should be posted soon. I hope its not as depressing, but I have a feeling it will be.
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mona Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:07 pm
lol @ Damn Uh I want to report you to Dr. Phil you heart breaker!
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LovinDaReadz says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:12 pm
That poor thing. I mean i don’t feel that bad for her because she knew what she was gettin’ into but I know Uh is wrong for forgetting who she was. Like damn are you serious? I’m sure she looked the same lol! But anywho… It’s sad she put herself in that position and it’s a trip his penis game is so damn good women go crazy for him not only in person but online lol… man this dude needs his own tv/radio show. Talk about a hit. **If it does happen I want my cut for puttin’ this out there first! LOL** UH… Be honest… Have you ever not statisfied a woman? & dont say u dont know.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:00 am
I just left a girls house and my d*ck wouldn’t stay hard for s**t, so I definitely don’t always satisfy women. I’ve never claimed to be Mr. Super Stroker, plenty of women have had sex with me without reaching an orgasm, matter of fact, most have. I have to care about you to even put in the effort to try to make you happy….do you know how many times I just get head and leave? The women who get these “From Their Perspective” blogs are not just women I f****d and left, they like(d) me for other reasons.
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LovinDaReadz Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:04 am
“do you know how many times I just get head and leave?” <– lmao!!! I wish one of my girls would ever admit to doin' a man like that i'll disown her! But I guess if you got it like that you got it like that…
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The Undresser Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 6:03 pm
it’s not rare. And the same thing is glorified by some women, even the ones who comment on this blog. Apparently, men give them oral sex, and don’t get anything in return as well.
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TheEpitomeOfBeauty says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:55 pm
VERY VERY interesting blog, Therapist. I think you made the right call by reacting to the situation in this manner. Sure, you may want him but you accept the situation for what it is, lowering your chances of getting hurt I guess. Im in a similar situation so like H2L said, reading this did kinda make me feel for you. Good luck with that BFF thing lmao…not to sure about that one. But good blog & very well written.
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ladyoflove says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 5:06 pm
see uh, i knew u were a heartbreaker. got me over here all sad for therapist.
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bestuHeverhad says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 5:07 pm
I’m glad you saw the light Therapist.
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BKBadAss Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 5:41 pm
Smh… #1 Go away. #2 She trying to be a bff- “best f*ck friends”. She has deep feelings and doesn’t want to break it off at all.
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Epiphany143 Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 6:20 pm
LMAO, your back.
you know you want some
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TONYA says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 8:01 pm
YAWN…BULLSHIT…YAWN
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LovinDaReadz Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:59 am
haha lol ur funny
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Covet says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:23 pm
awwww. this was a nice post….but i wouldnt try to be his bff either…
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Stunt Millions says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:54 pm
Lol @ UH being the bad guy, but from a womans perspective of course it’s not gonna be too happy unless they have the same mindset of UH, I feel for her to H2L, and you know how much I dislike emotion, maybe it’s the way she pointed things out but, I was like damn @ him being on the phone with Bathtub Bubbles when he just made passionate love to another woman, bad enough he was on the phone with her, but he gave her a dry ass “goodbye” damn give the girl a hug at least, but I guess you gotta be heartless in the end if you wanna live this life.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 10:03 am
lol @ bathtub bubbles. I didn’t give her a dry goodbye, she gave me one.
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Stunt Millions says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:56 pm
On a side note..mmmm…wings..
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Therapist says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:55 pm
I didn’t expect this post to garner so much pity. Any sadness I felt while dealing with him was brief and stemmed from my own naiveness.Once coming to grips with that, I was able to enjoy his company. Eventually, it was no longer enough and I let it go, no animosities towards him. He was real with me. I have been around uH several times and his d**k has gotten hard every single time and nothing happened. I stand my ground and he respects my ‘NO’. If he didn’t, I would have no desire to have him in my life. He only treats a woman how she allows him to.
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The Undresser Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 10:08 am
I only accept your no’s, because we have history, and we don’t meet on the same terms as we used to. Don’t go throwing it out there like I’ll hang around random chicks like that. Furthermore, we haven’t been alone in I don’ t know how long, unless you want to count that time at your job when I tried to get inside of you on the office table.
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downasss says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 pm
Damn, I’m curious how uH forgot you. Since he speaks of you consistently on the site? Don’t cry over it, recognize the situation and don’t let history repeat itself. And just out of curiousity, Poitree, have you and uH ever slept together?
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The Undresser Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 10:05 am
I didn’t blog about her until AFTER that stuff happened. If you read the first time I blogged about her, I said that same stuff. When I first got with her, I didn’t even have a blog.
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Poitree Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 6:15 pm
No.
Dang. Can’t leave a simple answer. Thing kept telling me my comment was too short *side eye*
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Ash B. says:
February 4th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
im not going to front therapist i missed your comments on the blog!! it was interesting to me because you actually knew UH offline. I understand where you are coming from, everyone has met their own UH before
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Therapis says:
February 4th, 2010 at 9:08 pm
Dang uH I didn’t mean it like that baby
lol I just meant that I have learned how to say no and mean it. That’s all. Thanks Ash! uH tells me not to read his blog but I’m hard head I guess
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The Undresser Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 2:12 pm
yea, I’m working on trying to make you wet enough that you can’t say no. Gotta get you alone first….ahhh, the plot begins…
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FEDS says:
February 18th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
The only “From Her Perspective” that would be worth the read would be Bubbles. The rest are just extra and quite boring.
I skimmed this post and it seems she talked more about the “relationship/friendship” y’all had more than the sex. Which was a waste. I don’t care that y’all hung out, I want to read how the sex was, in a raunchy, descriptive manner.
As far as her trying to be on “BFF status,” well that was amusing and sad. Especially for a grown woman.
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kay says:
April 16th, 2010 at 8:27 am
reading these stories . . i have never in life been open like these girls off a dude; and the men can’t get enough. willing to be a side chick? smh
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