Always stay optimistic on first dates…
Friday, January 29, 2010 1:08 Written By HateToLoveWell first I wouldn’t really even call it a date, more like we saw each other at school a few times. She graduated, and decided to hit me up and chill when she was back in town. We never got around to it until not too long ago.
This was about two months ago, me and grad are trying to kick it, but something always comes up. Its either something on her side, or something on mine. We finally agree to meet at a lounge in Ferndale. It was so hard to get up with this girl; I was going to say yes to wherever she wanted to meet at. So she tells me the name of this lounge, I’m like yeah yeah I know where it’s at. I whip out the blackberry and Google the name. I got the address, estimated time of arrival, full tank of gas, and some Boosie Bad Azz in the deck, so I’m feeling great right now. I get to this place; parking was ridiculous because it was so many people at different clubs ands restaurants in the area.
I finally make it to the door, bouncer checks my id, I just instantly start looking for grad. The more I walk in here I realize how nice it is, and very modern it is. Like this is a dope place to chill at. So I see grad all the way in the back of the lounge, near the exit. I hug her, she gives me a glass of wine, and we just sit down and chill. She introduces me to her friends, I shake all there hands, and everyone was very polite. So I’m just looking at grad like damn she is looking so good right now. She drinks like a fish, but she was sexy doing it. She starts to talk in my ear and this is when I started to forget what she was saying. I started to listen to the music this place was playing. It was really good music, like rap mixed with dance. It was like good rap though, like real artist. It was different, especially in the Detroit area. Then I realized it wasn’t many girls in here, then I saw one, but she worked there. I saw another, but she looked like a guy so she didn’t count. I was the only guy with a girl in the whole place.
Then it hit me, I was in a gay lounge. I didn’t want to over react though, so I just said jokingly, sure are a lot of guys in here. She got real defensive and was like “SO, is that a PROBLEM?” I just said no, it’s alright. I mean, yeah I’m mature, and I feel like she gave me the benefit of the doubt, but she really could have given me a heads up on that. It wasn’t like a bunch of flaming homos either, they where all cool and guy acting. So it wasn’t completely terrible once I realized what was going on.
We just chill a little longer, her friends leave, were just sipping wine talking. I almost forgot where I was a few times, it was good chemistry. We finally leave, grab something to eat. I go back to her place, beat, and never heard from her again.
I find out through Facebook of course, she hooked up with some guy a week later, so I guess I was just the guy in between. Its pretty lame, but you know that’s what happens. You can’t be on the rise all the time; somebody is bound to get one over on you. Just have to play the game and move on. I pretty much came to the conclusion that relationships are for people with kids. I just want relations, no relationships, maybe one day when I grow up, but right now its too much fun.
Oh yeah, It was my birthday a few days ago, she sends me a message on facebook saying “happy birthday.”
Child please!
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LovinDaReadz says:
January 29th, 2010 at 2:00 am
Wow fb status updates on sexlife… I guess… Well u continue to have your fun and not worry about ‘ol girl
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mschellebell says:
January 29th, 2010 at 2:08 am
I’m always optmistic about the first dates, even if I don’t hear from the guy in a while (wait- does that make me sound sad? lol) On a side note- why does it seem like the gay places have the best music?
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butterpecanrican says:
January 29th, 2010 at 10:41 am
Well usually ,when the sex is wack,I dnt tlk to dude anymore either…..(Dnt judge) that’s just me…maybe it was sumthin bout it that she didn’t like maybe?…who knows?….glad you’re back h2l
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HateToLove Reply:
January 29th, 2010 at 10:55 am
I honestly don’t think that was it, it was more just a rebound thing. I found out a week later she was “in a relationship” with some guy. She had no intentions on seeing me or chilling with me anymore. It is a possibility I gave her the broke d**k tho…lol. Nah its not. Ima have to have a girl write up a night with me.
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BKBadAss says:
January 29th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
In my best Martin Lawrence voice: “Boy you so crazayy!” Lol that’s wild she probably thought u were gay cuz u weren’t persistent enough orrr maybe she was testin u… Some chicks also have sex with guys because boyfriend number playin like he wanna be number 2 lol
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TONYA says:
January 30th, 2010 at 10:02 pm
undressingher is one lame muthafucka!
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Covet says:
January 30th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
awww I’m glad you’re back H2L!
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krimsonluxurie says:
January 31st, 2010 at 12:21 am
gosh i really missed this site.. maybe i should act like it. lol. no seriously h2L: realations…. i like that one..
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sev says:
January 31st, 2010 at 5:56 pm
1. you should write a manual to this! at least check with a publisher
2.you ever gonna say what happened with jabs?
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HateToLove Reply:
February 1st, 2010 at 11:44 am
jab? what story are you talking about? Im going to type up a little manual on how to get the panties on the first night very soon.
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Poitree Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:14 pm
Sev…there is more than one poster. Hate2Love aka H2L is the author of this post, NOT the Undresser…
As for you, H2L….EEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWW!! Stop kissing on these women!! Just think, if they are doing this with you, how many others do you think there could possibly be. You and uH are gonna get enough of putting yall’s mouths on these nasty fema…women. Blech. I hope you used an entire bottle of listerine. LOL.
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