undressingHER – LUST. LOVE. LIFE.

This is something I feel VERY pa*sionately about. It was inspired by something I was reading today, regarding a man getting a ‘pa*s’ for walking around with a woman who didn’t have a pretty face, but had a nice body. The shit literally made me sick to my stomach. It’s something I’ve been trying to tell people, both women and men, for a long time, but they just won’t listen. Stop looking to other people for their thumbs up on who you f**k, date, or kick it with.

First off, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Do people not really believe that or something? Maxim magazine puts out a lists of what they consider to be the 100 Most Sexy Female Celebs every year…..I probably think 5 of them are attractive. I could easily go to Spelman during graduation and find 100 better looking women. It’s all an opinion, learn to live with what you like.

I chose Usher and his wife as the photo for this post because a lot, and I mean hundreds of thousands, of people on tv, the internet, and everywhere else seem to be obsessed with how HIS WIFE looks. It’s as if they have to eat her p***y, deal with her on a regular basis, and deal with her ‘lack of beauty’. Get the f**k out of here. Half the b***hes saying she isn’t cute, don’t look any better. Half the n***as saying she’s ugly couldn’t pull her on their best day. It’s ridiculous. Despite all the haters, Usher went with who he wanted. They seem happy and in turn, I’m happy for them.

Kobe Bryant’s wife is…..f**king gorgeous. I mean she’s a 25 on a scale of 1-10. Have yall seen the white girl he f**ked in Denver? Oh my. That leads me to believe that his wife just serves as eye candy and someone to make pretty kids with. That’s not what he really desires. That’s unfortunate that some people have to put up this front to please their friends, family, and fans.

I find this trait most apparent in young males, especially young black males. I have a boy that will not talk to a girl if we don’t approve of her physically. It’s quite sad actually. He once told my other boy, “you’re too cute to be with her.” Seriously, that is what came out of his mouth. It’s the gayest thing I’ve ever heard in my life. Never mind that my boy was happy with his girl, all this nucklehead could see was that more attractive women were available to him. This is exactly why he hasn’t had any good women in his corner. He had a bunch of ex-bad b***hes who cheated and even turned to other girls. Yea, great job choosing a partner.

I like a girl with meat on her body, I don’t care if 500 people call her fat. I don’t mean, “let me get the whole buffet fat”….just a lil extra cushion. 6 packs are fly, but I can do nice with a lil pouch. I like girls that when they smile, they make me feel good. That lil’ sparkle in a girls eyes that will melt me. My uncles, cousins, boys and whomever else can think she looks like pure shit, but as long as I see a beautiful young lady when I look at her, I’m good.

I could go on and on about this, but I guess my main point is, go after who you like, not who everyone else likes. If someone is really your friend, they won’t care how the person you’re f**king looks….as long as they’re treating you right. As far as other folks, f**k them. Some people think Michelle Obama is beautiful……I don’t. Is she smart and cla*sy, sure. Could I think of 500 women who are over 40 that look better, YUP. I’m sure Obama gets p***y thrown at him from some of the best looking grown a*s women in the world all the time……but he loves his woman. He chose to wife a woman who was beautiful to him, not beautiful to Maxim magazine.

That’s a sign of a grown man. The ability to do what you want to do despite vague criticism from the peanut gallery. By no means should you go out and find someone you think is ugly, but just because 300 other people think they’re ugly, doesn’t mean you have to. We must stop acting like everyone isn’t ugly to someone. I’m sure if you took Beyonce to some village in Africa, they’d be looking at her like we look at Whoopi Goldberg.

So to my readers, if you thought someone was cute, would you stop talking to them because the people in your circle said they were ugly? Don’t lie.